Code of Conduct

Parent & Player Roles / Commitments / Conduct

Players must do well in school!

Each player is expected to make the practices, games, and tournaments so that when we practice everyone is up to speed on our game plan. There will be conflicts and we will handle on a case by case basis. Missing a practice before a tournament may result in very limited playing time, not as a punishment, but your son may not know what the game plan is.

Players will be put into positions over the course of the year so they may learn a specific position well. Your child may be playing a position that they are not used to. They will begin to understand their role and how it plays a part of the team’s success. Players will also understand that this is a select team, and not every player will play an equal amount of time.

Players are expected to take care of their equipment, uniforms, and apparel so that the responsibility lies on the kids to understand that everything has a value. Players will take their equipment on and off the fields and make sure as a team we have everything picked up. No parent should be bringing their son’s bag to and from practices or games.

Each player will be responsible for making sure they get to know their teammates, and they will always be positive to each other. Be happy for your teammate when they do something well, or have a great game; tell them they had a great game. NEVER make fun of, or belittle another player on this team or any other team within Lax Dreams or teams we play against.

Respect every place we go – you are now representing Lax Dreams, and we will conduct ourselves with class, always use your manners, and understand you are a part of something bigger than yourself.

Sportsmanship -At the end of each game we will shake hands with the other team. Failure to conduct themselves in a respectful way of any sort on or off the field will have consequences. Respect the opposing team, officials and the game. Win and lose with class.

Parents will representing Lax Dreams as well, no yelling at refs, you will be positive with your children, and you will cheer for all the players on field, not just your child. Your instruction (coaching) may be in direct conflict from what we teach your child…. So we ask you to keep positive comments that are directed towards hustle, desire, and not strategy. Parents promise to support the team and all its players not just your own child. Parents need to support this idea of team and to restrain from comments in front of your child or any child that may not support this effort.

24 Hour Rule: Parents will promise never to bring up any issues in the company of others or in public at practices or games. Any issues will be conducted via phone call directly to one of the coaches in a private manner 24 hours after the incident. We all realize that coaches make mistakes and parents are pretty sharp about watching their child’s playing time; so we ask that if you have an issue, call us 24 hours after the incident when you are calm and the coach isn’t worried about game plans or opponents, or anything else that may be giving the coach some stress; no need to add this to the mix.


Parenting and coaching are both extremely difficult tasks. By establishing an understanding of
each position, we are better able to accept the actions of the others and provide a greater benefit
to children. As parents, when your son is involved in our program, you have the right to understand
what expectations are placed on him. This begins with clear communication from the coach.


  • Concerns expressed directly to the coach
  • Notification of any schedule conflicts in advance
  • Notification of illness or injury as soon as possible


  • The treatment of your son
  • Ways to help your son improve
  • Concerns about your son’s behavior


  • Coach from the sidelines
  • Referee the game from the sidelines
  • Criticize the game officials
  • Blame defeat on poor coaching or poor officiating
  • Engage in negative conversations with the opposing teams parents/fans


Every player is expected to:

  • Respect your teammates, coaches, referees, and opponents at all times
  • Give 100% effort at each practice and game
  • Know the rules of the game of lacrosse and abide by them
  • Support and encourage your teammates. Set a positive example
  • Wear the required equipment at all games and practices. Keep your equipment well maintained
  • Display good sportsmanship at all times on and off the field
  • Do not be afraid to make a mistake. That is part of learning
  • Refrain from addressing officials or commenting on their decisions during or after the game
  • Maintain control of their emotions, avoiding the use of abusive or profane language, taunting or
    humiliating remarks, and/or gestures and physical assault upon another player at any time
  • Be modest in victory and gracious in defeat


The parent role is one of support to the players and coaches. Every parent is expected to:

  • Ensure that your child understands that win or lose, you love him
  • Assist your child in setting realistic goals
  • Emphasize “improved” performance, not winning
  • Control your emotions at games and events
  • Be a “cheerleader” for your child and the other children on the team
  • Praise good play by both teams
  • Respect your son’s coaches. Communicate with them in a positive way. Encourage others
    to do the same.
  • Be a positive role model
  • Make a reasonable effort to arrive on time
  • Communicate any medical conditions and injuries throughout the season to the head
  • Parents are responsible to see that your child is properly equipped with all the required
    lacrosse equipment
  • Learn and respect the rules of lacrosse
  • Teach and practice good sportsmanship and fair play by personally demonstrating
    commitment to these virtues.